Hi, I’m S. I’m 36 years old and mother to a 7-year-old son and 3-year-old daughter. I’m also an attorney, running my own solo law practice.
I created this blog as a space for me to anonymously write about my journey through divorce and recovering from codependency. On the outside, I always appeared to have it all…great marriage, great career, and great kids. However, looks can be deceiving. The truth is, I was in a relationship with an alcoholic and sex addict for 13 years (married for 6). That relationship and marriage destroyed my self-esteem and helped turn me into a raging codependent. I say “helped” because I’m pretty sure my childhood has played as part as well. Both my parents grew up in alcoholic households and suffer from extreme codependency of their own. They also both display characteristics of narcissistic personality disorder, with my mom being on the extreme side.
So, here I am. At times, I’m lost and have no idea how I am going to make it through the day as a single, working mother. But I’m taking time to heal. I’m slowly reflecting and picking up the pieces of my shattered past to re-build my self-esteem and finally get to a place of peace and happiness and creating a life I love.
You can read all about my background story here.
And a little guide to abbreviations:
- DD3: darling daughter, age 3
- DS7: darling son, age 7
- STBXAH: soon-to-be ex-alcoholic husband
- XAH: alcoholic ex-husband